Trials and love- friendships through hardships without cold content.

Cold content. A place I hope my friends and I never get.I've been recently thinking of my friends.Close friendsOld friendsNew friends.Then, the friends that are like your neighborhood mail-man.The other friends that change your life completely.The other friends that you rub off on.Cold content. A solemn and dreary place. Disdain is a full-time job and jealously reigns supreme. It's a place where 'friends' reach a point in a relationship that says. "Well, we're good, just as long as we don't go deeper.""I like it here in the shallow parts of the relationship."Where conversation mainly consists of school and work maybe weather, if you're lucky. But, as far as life, God, politics, religion, relationships, and families:-areas untouched-Cold content has not real content.No substance.I was warned of times as these.People said that your friends will scatter like thrown puzzle pieces.Never really connecting again.It's life, they said. Just what happens, people go to college, people start jobs, and people go to the military. People start families.They're all good valid reasons on some level. But, still friends right? I've recently been thinking of the cherished friendships I have with people. Situations in life change. Thinks don't always work out the way you planned them too. It's all good, it's life. But, I still want there to be a solid ethic of love and pursuit in our relationship as friends.Don't have a cold content, have a burning pursuit.As friends, seek and learn each other, from each other. It may have been that you've known them your whole life. But, does that make it impossible for new ground to cover?New ground? Male? Friends? What?!Too many times, I think, as males we focus our relationships on the basis of chemistry between Halo and football, girls and money, cars and image. Instead of true trust, love, integrity and character, maturity and resolve, accountability and tall glass of "act-right."Some of my closest friends don't have ALL that much in common, except God.This, in all truth, is all that's needed.Pursuit, chase, follow and lean on your friends, burn and sometimes it hurts, but in the end you'll love the scar.Cold content, Burning pursuit….One more ingredient to this equation maybe we can get the sum of something friendship.Trust and confront. You see, you can't spell friendship correctly unless you spell T-R-U-S-T after the F and before the P... Mind you, the trust, is silent.It's the fundamental difference between families and friends, families have a divine blood trust, if they are true. Friends have a chasm they have to cross, trust, and once that bridge is crossed it's now only a matter of maintenance of two working together to keep emotions crossing.However, I've seen friendships dwindle. I've seen people loose a connection. Be it, their not connecting with Jesus.(thus creating a relapse affect with people whom are) Or, they interest have changed they might be more focused of school, girlfriends or work.Which in most cases are understandable, but in others they are cop-outs.What if there are people in my life I should intentionally disconnect with?Is that an option? That is something I really struggle with.Because "dude" is cheating of "chick" should I confront him and have him blow up because of my "false allegations" or just disassociate with him and have him figure it out? What if, what if, I found of a "friend" was lying to another "friend"?This one is the worse.When a "friend" tells you it's none your business. What? In some situations it maybe none of my business at all, but guess what, I can probably tell, and therefore won't I probe you. However, if it's none of my business because your being a shady, corrosive "friend" with completely illegitimate reasoning, I can see RIGHT through you when you say it's none of your business, because basically all your doing is saving your image because you know what your doing when you tell someone it's none of their business is simple cop-out in which, you know now, you can proceed in all the frivolity and games you want to play with the girls minds, drunk times, sex-as-a-sport, and know you've deceived your friends. But, I got to tell you sometime. I see you measure and I read this book. You're a liar, and when you put it all together, this friend you say you are is not a friend at all. I hope that your god donsen't lead to your fall. I love, in which this I am called. To you, my friend, I gave my all.I, again, cherish my friendships. I love my friends. They help me through some seriously tough times. I don't know where I would be without them. But, I don't want to be a little puppet in their show. I don't have time for a person who is just going to throw me around like a slingshot. I want them to trust me. O' I don't want my friends to become complacent and dead in relationships. I want to thrive, it's hard. It sucks, but possible. I wish I could have times again like at shambling theater, knees down, crying with a friend of mine over a cup of prayer. Where we we're broken and torn and life had situations and we, together, worked through it. I see times again, when I'm alone in a S10 with a friend and we're apologizing because for months we'd had great disparagement between us, over a girl. We got over it, we're better now, because we're friends. Times like going down the road and realizing how much you love your buddy. Even after he stomped on the breaks and making your face hit the dashboard of his dumb SUV.Time to shut up, and let God speak.Proverbs 27:6Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.Ecclesiastes 4:10If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! 1 John 4:7[ God's Love and Ours ] Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.---John 15:13Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.